What are relationships going to look like after the pandemic? Ingrid Hilb shares her story.

By Ingrid Hilb

Did you know that love is one of the deepest emotions known to human beings? And yet not all in this planet are lucky to experience it, and therefore we have become conscious (and unconscious) seekers of this wonderful feeling.

I myself have been in a continual search throughout my life - and although blessed with loving and caring family, friends and partners – I still find myself striving towards healthier and more fulfilling relationships.

However the practice often strays far from the theory - and it wasn’t until I stayed home during the quarantine, that I realised I was kind of sabotaging this goal.

I knew I had to push harder and make bigger changes in my life, starting from home. One of the first things I noticed was that my flatmates were not the social types, and it was really affecting me emotionally.

They are not bad people. It’s just you see, I am an extrovert that enjoys interaction; exchanging opinions and exploring multicultural backgrounds, whilst in comparison, they were very much content with video games and a mutual interaction.

Considering the isolation circumstances and the deprivation of human contact, not even a “hello" on the hallway and arguments about the toilet paper, became really devastating, and so I consecutively decided it was time to move out.

“For me very little is needed to make a happy life; I believe it is all within yourself, and in your way of thinking.” 

In the meantime I began to practice early meditations, deepening myself into moments of stillness under the trees, with a clear definition of the connections I searched for - whilst being ungrateful with the ones I had already.

I wished for them to be aligned with my own life’s philosophy, this one being positive and colourful, and based on a joyful and passionate mindset. I was in search of similar beings, wanting to be their best versions and building healthy lifestyles, passionate about practicing kindness, staying present and loving the simplicity of the existence.

For me very little is needed to make a happy life; I believe it is all within yourself, and in your way of thinking.

Now happily for me, as the restrictions in the UK eased, I reconnected with a very fun and open – minded girl. We arranged a picnic and I immediately I loved her vibrant energy, and the way she sees life as an open road to achieve anything. I found it an enriching experience, where there was not room for stereotypes or prejudices, and we were pretty much letting everything flow in the moment.  

“I saw it as a superb opportunity to be more creative and build new ways of interaction with patience, love and trust.” 

I was also lucky to have just started dating a new person and this open a whole new perspective in terms of dating. Suddenly, our dates became FaceTime calls and short parks hangouts, and although some people would have moaned about the whole situation, I saw it as a superb opportunity to be more creative and build new ways of interaction with patience, love and trust. Things were looking up.

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Now that I have shared with you a bit of my personal experience, I would like to ask you today about the relationships in your life, and how aligned they are with who you are? Think perhaps, if you are conforming yourself with people that vibrate on a different frequency, or if some of your interactions are leaving you some sort of emptiness. 

Remember you have freedom to embrace what you don’t like and turn it into greatness. It is not a permanent status, but a constant movement of possibilities.

I believe the world has shown us through this pandemic that it is time for a change. We are awakening towards the right actions, and it is our responsibility to build a more fulfilling, conscious and brighter future.

So who's with me?

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